I am slowly realizing that I never have anything to say! :) I jump on here and read often but I can't think of anything fascinating to write about. We have NO baby news! As a matter of a fact, our counselor may have moved to the far East and we wouldn't know. It's complete silence on that homefront. The longer it takes the easier it becomes to not think about it so much. Sometimes I think...adoption...are we really in the process? It's because there is absoutely no news. I barely even look in the nursery when I go down the hall and sometimes I have to wonder why we have so much baby stuff because the possibility of a baby seems so distant now. On Feb. 4 we will have been waiting 17 months. That really is a long time.
Our counselor told us one time that the average wait is 18 to 36 months so we basically haven't even hit the average. I can tell you right now...I won't be able to wait 36 months! I don't have it in me. This I am sure of. I think the other thing that makes it so hard is that out of all the friends we have made through Bethany - they have either had placements or are anxiously waiting! :) So that leaves me feeling kind of out there by myself.
David and I have been discussing how long it has taken and we are slowly coming to the realization that at this rate this is likely the only child we will ever have - if he/she ever comes. We aren't old but getting older and the process takes so long. We both have siblings and hate the thought of our child being an only child. I have so many great memories all revolving around my brothers and sisters! :)
Adoption, for most, is a long, hard road and not for the faint of heart. It takes all you have and then you have to ask God to borrow more so you can make it. There are the easy days and the very difficult days. No matter what happens I will always have a healthy respect for anyone that even considers it.
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Isn't it so weird how time just keeps ticking and it's like this long-lost dream out there that just seems so far away? I still feel like that now. I could be called to the hospital any second, and I still won't know if I have a baby of my own for another 2 1/2 to three weeks. The waiting is RIDICULOUS...and the up and down of the government system is even worse...
Donnie and I have been talking about our options if this match doesn't go through. We are seriously considering switching to international if it doesn't, and going international for a sibling if it does. I agree that having siblings is THE BEST! It's definitely more expensive, but there are so many kids out there who need homes, the chances of things changing once you go to get them are miniscule, and you are taking them out of a horrible situation. God can provide the money to do it...we're going to try not to let that stop us.
I wish there was a support group for the WAITING families, since that takes up SO much more time than the training! Maybe we should get one started...
semi-sarcastic gavin says, just go grab a bunch of kids from haiti who are orphaned & displaced.. i really wish it were that easy, we'd do it ourselves.
I agree with the statement that I won't be able to wait 36 months. We also have been discussing that should we ever have a child, there will most likely only be one. I don't believe that I can do this again. Hoping for better days ahead...
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